Alien Tongue; Communicate in a New Language

Life is always fascinating; this past week hasn’t let me down. We have had so much duality/dueling going on it’s plain-ass intriguing. What’s going on in the external world is being reflected in the internal world of relationships. We just had another Republican/ Libertarian/Tea Party debate in Iowa which highlights the disparity we have within the country; the Liberal Left totally hit them hard with their opposing views of what is best from their perspective for the country; rather like the differences in perspective between men and women.  When are we as a nation and couples going to learn we have to move to the center of the balance beam to be successful in negotiating emotional upheavals and expectations on either side? Extremes on either end will bury and annihilate this country, not to mention a personal relationship when one side or the other doesn’t listen to the heartfelt needs and beliefs of the partner and/or opposition and what is ‘good for the whole’.  Each is mirrored  in the other.

If we can’t get along peacefully at home, myself included, then it will extremely difficult for our politicians to get it straight. If we can’t agree as partners, spouses, siblings, friends, we can’t expect more out of Washington. We are so connected now on so many levels there really is no separation anymore. What you put out, emotionally, mentally, sexually etc, guess what? will be back to haunt you rather quickly or support you as swiftly with the equivalent energy. Only problem is, Washington doesn’t know it yet. America is waking up so hold onto your hats as I feel the next year and a half is going to be bumpy. (Will this also be reflected in our personal connections?)

Relationship challenges have been a real study in psychology. The current predominant theme repeatedly is 1. The men are so self absorbed and preoccupied with their own issues/crisis whether they are physical, career and/or mental stress,(trying to keep finances afloat, careers intact, money in the bank for college tuition) they are not emotionally available for the feminine level of communication which invariably begins on the emotional level. 2. The women being over-achievers literally take care of the family (be it children, parents, siblings, co-workers, friends), running of the home (laundry, groceries, food prep and clean-up, house-cleaning, animals, yard-work) to working outside the home to help with the financial burdens, feel resentful for the lack of emotional involvement. The two sides aren’t meeting, not communicating in supportive ways and their personal needs are not being met. The couples (and Political Parties) are stuck in a old paradigm quagmire, with no real solutions on the table. As we are a country divided, we are also couples divided.

The divorce statistics are staggering; 52% which has been on a steady rise; too bad this isn’t the stock market. Women are the main instigators at a whopping 75%. Whew!! Tells us there is a huge shift needed in order for this to change; the question is how do we do it as couples and as a nation. One more interesting fact is men’s brains, whether they are White, Black, Hispanic, Italian, Russian, Chinese, etc, all look the same making it extremely difficult to distinguish race. However the difference between a man’s brain and a woman’s is instantly evident. We are literally constructed so differently our languages are alien to one another. As John Gray said so eloquently, men really are from Mars and women from Venus.

In regards to relationship challenges, first of all in men’s defense, they are working through the end of a belief system which has kept them as the rulers, shakers and leaders of the planet as well as the family. Now they are having to share the role with women. In addition, women are more emotionally demanding in their expectations of behavior, causing unsettled uneasiness in new territory of communication. They are not necessarily doing this willingly, especially for the older generations: Washington D.C. is an exceptional example of this new paradigm. (The younger ones who will be running this country and world are not going to have these issues fortunately as they are already versed in the balance of the masculine and feminine.) Compounding this is the overwhelming overload of economic strife on personal businesses and careers. Being the mental warriors they are, distances them from the emotional connections. This also translates to caring for their bodies; rather than seeing the physical as an extension of themselves, the body becomes a nuisance that needs subsistence rather than nurturing; thus the decline of their health, setting up Pandora’s box of medications, low libido and doctor visits.

With women our need and desire to take care of everyone and everything, being the total overachievers, has created an unhealthy dynamic of rampant breast cancer; we nurture everyone but ourselves. In doing this we actually eliminate the lesson of learning these important chapters invite; we are creating a huge level of co-dependent behavior where no one learns or wins, most importantly ourselves. And nothing changes. (And yes I am talking to myself on this one).  We are the mothers who have created this dynamic and we as mothers can change it! Our body temples become a haven for over-eating and/or eating disorders with food supplementing our emotional needs, rather than our passions. And in the midst of this there still is no communication on the table which will change the schism.

Energetically working with people of course the issues become much more complex as the story unfolds of their soul’s journey through this life and others. We have such a complicated complex of attributing aspects, sometimes it’s amazing we communicate at all. Fortunately when we were were created the sexual drive was set up as an interloper to keep us ever moving forward to completion and union, otherwise, I feel our challenges would be greater still.

There are several vital keys I feel are paramount to this huge shift we are experiencing, this is why everything is up-front-in-our-face for perusal, confrontation, communication and change. (Our galactic alignment is October 28th 2011 – and you wonder why things are heating up to boiling?)

1. Everyone’s unique story is vital and worth the time to tell and unfold and support.

2.Learning to communicate in the opposition’s/partner’s language would change the outcome; paraphrase to make sure you have the meanings and intentions correct; this enables you to fully understand their position.

3. State what you need clearly and concisely. Not everyone can read another’s mind. 🙂 Take the time to really understand what it is you do need emotionally if you want it to succeed and last.

4. Be emotionally available to their needs as well as your own. Only when we breathe our own oxygen can we totally feel alive and energized.

5. Listen deeply with your eyes closed and your heart open; it suspends old beliefs and creates new pathways of possibilities.

I realize this is information we all know, however I haven’t seen it being implemented successfully for some time. With the universal  frequencies amping up, these next several months are going to be extremely ‘interesting’ in every aspect, from the political, economical, environmental, national, international back down to the personal. The better prepared you are the more agile and able you will be to jump and dive, dance and converse. Take time for introspection combined with nature walks/hikes. This will integrate the vibrational shifts and open your emotional worlds to speaking in alien tongues. A challenge yes, but oh so worth it.

Cosmic sunshine to you!

About Candia Sanders

I love life! I love the abundance, beauty, magnificence, color, emotions, prolific sensuous joys, relationships, animals, nature, spiritual "magic"- the Aliveness - of which humanness reveals. Combine that with sharp, keen intuitive insight and it's a recipe for fun in the fast lane. Intuitive since young, combined with a natural ability to heal has created an arena where possibilities are open and opportunities abound. International Intuitive and Energetic Healer, Medical Intuitive, Psychic
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3 Responses to Alien Tongue; Communicate in a New Language

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  2. Argus says:

    With The Spouse I communicate in the same old language … mine. I also speak ‘Spouse’ fluently, which helps a whole lot. Sometimes.
    It took a while before she learned that I simply treat all people as people—it took me a long time to get there, I was an arrogant bugger when young. When necessary I take refuge behind a wall of humour.
    There are too many conventions and facades. Necessary I suppose but they play merry hell with true understanding. We all need to learn to think for ourselves, so few do—slogans (predigested thinking) make sluggards of us all.
    As for the difference between men’s brains and women’s brains—as I sometimes tell The Spouse “I have nothing against women, they are almost like people” … then duck. It never fails and always takes a few seconds before she bites … aaah, vive la difference.

    • I have to tell you, you brought a nice big smile to my face! Thanks for making my morning all bright and cheery. I can see your expression as you voice your opinions to her and she, like me, always takes the bait. We’re good at it you know, taking the bait and flying off the handle if we feel our point hasn’t made contact. Doesn’t matter which side of the planet we’re from, men are still men and women – women. It’s rather fun really. Fortunately for her you utilize your ‘wall of humor’; it much more enjoyable to be surrounded by anecdotes and quick one liners than malice and contempt. Good for you for holding firm to perspective as you learn to communicate in hers.

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