“Restoration: Why We Have to Look at Ourselves First”

I have a propane fireplace, installed when the house was built. Due to a faulty unit or bad install it’s emitted a continuous but slow toxic soot over the house. Literally everywhere. Due to high ceilings initially I thought the shadows were just darker defining areas on the walls. My carpets became darker, blacker. Windowsills had black footprints from my cat. A black streak of soot began forming on the outside of the house a yard plus wide. Enough.

C3D863A1-85C0-4D54-B6AD-2499A02477D6

Ironically in today’s world, the fault is quickly passed onto someone else. The system becomes quagmired and nothing gets done. It becomes a blame-game. Bottom line is shit happens. It all depends on how we deal with it that defines the outcome.

Truthfully I probably let it go on too long thinking someone was going to step-up and do the right thing, based on my personal approach to life. That’s not necessarily the way things happen, right? We all have different approaches, beliefs, attitudes and responses. I happened to get the deer-in-headlights, look scared, run and do nothing subcontractor.

I really do believe everything circles back to us, to ourselves, to myself. So what is there to learn from this? *Attitude is number one; good or bad it’s up to me how I handle it. Get pissed and/or stay calm and direct. *Draw the line of demarcation and say, okay, something needs to be done now. It’s easy to procrastinate and wait for someone to step up, which doesn’t happen unless a fire is lit. Charlie the Wonder Dog is snoring loud now, his sinuses, even with magic, are clogged from the soot in the carpet. *Stay firm. Be kind yet direct responsibility to right parties. *Follow through, stay true to course, till finalized. This relates to everything from discourse in our relationships, to our careers, our health. Shit happens. It’s how we approach the situation, the dilemma, from hiding our heads in the sand, to not standing up for ourselves, not taking action, putting up with substandard  communication, involvement, to recognizing our place in the equation and taking responsibility to change the outcome. It’s always our job.

Bigger picture, what’s this about? Is this a mirror into my life? Is there something or someplace that needs restoring? A clean-up? An emotional reorganization? A letting go? Or is it just something that happened being on earth? I feel it has been a clear restoration of my faith, belief, this location was a great choice three years ago when my life was on a shattered, scattered rocky cliff. I moved away from thirty years of close friendships and known commodities to start anew. A complete revamp of my life in every single aspect. I questioned if this was the right move, the best location. This upheaval solidified in my heart it was perfect.

I’m looking at the positives: new paint means new color. Carpet removal means carpet upgrade. Oriental carpets cleaned and spiffed, furniture and upholstery, curtains and pillows looking brand new. A new fireplace and bricks. I’m still in overhaul here. The process has begun but have weeks ahead to be finalized, but it’s begun. Finally after nine months of negations.

Attitude baby! It’s what changes the outcome. Makes sailing easier too through the choppy seas.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.☀️

*This is where the earth’s environment gets cleaned up: in our own backyards first. It always begins with us.

**Charlie the Wonder Dog, blind and hampered by sciatica, will be 13 in August. It’s the Love that keeps him going. 💕

 

candiasanders.com

Posted in Be Here Now: The Present, Behaviors and bad habits, Behaviors and Good Habits, Learned Behaviors, Self Confidence and Self Esteem, Stress and crisis | Tagged , , , , , , | Leave a comment

“Why Being Grateful Isn’t Enough”

This is going to sound odd, however being grateful isn’t enough. Wild statement, right? And the reason I say this is being gratefulness is still outside ourselves. It’s like seeing a bouquet of flowers on the table. We enjoy them, appreciate the beauty, are grateful for their presence/presents in our homes, yet those thoughts are still externalized. We do the same with the good things that come our way. We keep them emotionally externalized, outside our inner being, our hearts, based on past hurtful experiences. What if…? pops into our awareness, fears creeps into our thinking and we keep the goodness, the rewards and love on the table, like the flowers in the vase. Externalized.

D4B15E09-8ED6-4994-AA4A-03551EA38FDE

To really manifest change, to create our desired outcomes, we have to truly allow ourselves to feel it, be it, feel the appreciation, the gratitude, the fullness of the moment, the connection, the relationship, within our hearts. That feeling of totally being in love with life, with ourselves . That’s what creates the instantaneous shift in awareness. It’s what creates higher vibrations within our bodies, ie, the emotional, mental and physical bodies, healing through love, distortions within the cells. And and and!! You just feel great!

So how do you go from external to internal? You become the temple instead of going to one. You bring the focus inward to your heart temple, all the positives of the day. The love of an animal, friends, family. Find the best rewards within your daily routine; bring them into your heart. Feel them.

Now just love them – all the goodness and connections and emotional gifts and bonuses to death, till death, since there is no death, it translates to forever. As you do, love yourself, every single aspect of you: your body, your weird characteristics, your talents, your foibles, your dreams, your lessons, your strengths and powers. Feel this gratitude in your heart! ❤️ This is Powerful! But bottom line is you’ve got to do it.

32E592DA-8AD9-4BF6-9109-87F56A7FD5C5

Then relationships take on a new vibe, a brighter hue. Whether in steady long term connections to attracting the next best highest vibing love, this changes the experiential feeling. Why? Because you flipped the switch, brought the love inside, and can feel the exuberance and excitement. This applies to all aspects in life, not just relationships. You are the key.

Make it a Mantra, a habit.

Let me know after you’ve added this daily for the next several months what’s changed in your life, because things will. Guaranteed.

What a bonus.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.

 

candiasanders.com

 

Posted in Be Here Now: The Present, Behaviors and bad habits, Behaviors and Good Habits, Energy healing, Good Vibes, healing tools, Healing, Health, Spiritual Concepts, Health, Intimacy, intuitive knowing, Learned Behaviors, Love and Romance, psychic insights, Quantum physics, The field of potential, Spiritual wellness | Tagged , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

“Four Quick Steps to Activate Your Intuition”

In today’s crazy world it’s even more imperative to trust and utilize our intuition. Too many people are buying into propaganda based on everyone else’s views and the constant negative newsfeed. Look at situations, dramas, episodes through our hearts and third eye. The portrayed good guys can be false gods and the purported bad guys can be actually wearing white hats. Think family, jobs and career, medical issues, social and political organizations.

Remember looking at the 3D illustrations where we have to look at the images through a new lens, from the side,  through soft vision to see the dimensional picture materialize? I recommend doing this regularly in life. Look at situations from this softened gaze to activate our inner knowing. Be determined to look at things from every view possible before swinging into judgement, hysteria, anger, name calling, violence, – essentially all levels of negativity. Once ‘there,’ in that field of distortion it’s difficult to find the path back to positivity and joy. Thus getting inebriated, high, over or under stimulated, angry, blaming others, finger pointing, to re-right the emotional ship becomes the avenue, when in truth the best direction is inward. Listen to our inner knowing.

9709E028-7F7E-4975-B9EF-FA7426EE6245

1. Be in-tuned with  yourself, your emotional needs.

2. Listen with your heart not your head. If it feels right it is. If it feels off even slightly then pay attention. This is relevant for relationships, jobs, health, social issues.

3. Look at things with a softened gaze. Look through your third eye in the center of your forehead for the real view. It’s time to stay aligned with your higher ideal.

4. Trust your instincts. The heart and emotional connectivity won’t steer you wrong. Not listening is the curve ball.

 

Here’s to seeing life in all its beautiful dimensions.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.

 

candiasanders.com

Posted in Be Here Now: The Present, Energy healing, Good Vibes, healing tools, Healing, Health, Spiritual Concepts, Intuition, intuitive knowing, Intuitive Listening, observation, psychic insights, relationships, Romance, Self Confidence and Self Esteem, Spiritual Concepts, Spiritual wellness | Tagged , , , , , | Leave a comment

“Nine Steps to Jumpstart Your Passionate Present”

We are interesting beings aren’t we? We’re either consumed by the past or nervous about the future, seldom being fully invested in the present. That’s where all our anxieties and depression come in; past is where depression lies and anxieties pile up in some yet uncreated future. Worry, worry, fret and worry plus a lot of remorse, guilt, self flogging and beratement. What other species does that?

As an aside, the top smartest species beside humans are….chimps, dolphins, orangutans, elephants and crows.  There was one list that posted goats as number two, but sorry just not feeling it. Sorry to the goat herds. I can’t see any of theses species getting all twisted about their past or their futures as they are all currently residing in the now, the only moment present and available to them. They’re soaking up the goodness of being alive.

We could learn from our fellow earth travelers, I’m thinking, as we forget that simple wisdom.

I know I know, we’ve all heard about following our bliss, diving into our passions and our joys,  however so many truly don’t know what that means. They can’t find their drive or their motivating desires. For some it’s even difficult to spell the word passionate or joyous. However I believe each of us can obtain those feelings when we clear out the clutter. The clutter meaning all the emotional debris clogging our tanks. We become bogged down by debilitating feelings that wipe our energy reserves. We get lost in the daily dramas. Our immune system’s tank, our endocrine centers suffer.

What to do?

1. Stay right here, right now. Focus on what’s before you, literally. Notice the sky, the temperature, the lighting, feel your body. Be totally aware. (Most have difficulty describing how they physically feel or where the sources of energy, fear or pain actually reside as taking our bodies for granted is the norm. It’s time to embrace our physicality.) Focus on the deets.

2. Breathe deeply. Relax. Bless the past. Thank the future for having your backalways.

3. Send out Thank You’s in your mind to All the loving people in your life.

4. Send out Thank You’s to ALL the difficult people as they have been the best teachers. Love them for their incredible roles they’ve portrayed with their vast knowledge and expertise to teach great depths of wisdom on what to do and what not to do. Clearing the clutter essentially. Forgive.

5. Think about what are the things, ideas, and concepts that capture your attention.

D3F99F14-ABC0-4180-840B-185637FB80AC

6. See yourself exploring these vital topics, classes, informative subjects. Expand your awareness and knowledge. This activates a very positive emotional response.

FCCD8396-60EA-4B5A-AB15-402C4F2443BF

7. See, feel, visualize how it feels to be an expert in these areas.

0A0A7E31-8BEF-4325-AAD8-5FAE4DFB77A7

8. Now make it your very Powerful Passionate Present, by following the steps you designed for yourself to bring forth these creative aspects in your life.

9. Make them a reality.

40627C60-8D39-41C3-8D44-06920B1D4194

 

Now love yourself enough to make the effort. It’s definitely worth it and quite honestly the world needs every ounce of positive happy love-vibes in each and every one of us.

If we all made it a priority to have one entire day dedicated to happiness with zero negativity we could change the world. Think on that. Better yet feel that inside our hearts. The possibilities.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.

 

candiasanders.com

 

 

Posted in Be Here Now: The Present, Behaviors and bad habits, Good Vibes, healing tools, Healing, Health, Spiritual Concepts, intuitive knowing, Spiritual Concepts, Spiritual wellness | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

“Today’s Takeaway: How to Create Your Own Eden”

I just got off a radio interview out of Seattle on KKNW, Loss and Found with Cathy Cooper. If any of you are dealing with loss of any kind, I’d recommend tuning in. Cathy has a very kind gentle nature always with the audience’s best needs in mind. She has a Facebook page and link to her show. She’s a terrific interviewer and is receptive to new ideas.

5EEBFF5F-22C8-43D1-9F6A-B6CB23976113

Her final question to me was insightful. We were originally going a different direction and at the last she circled back to this: “If you can leave the audience with anything what would it be?” Essentially the gist was this:

Woman with open arms by the lake on a background of mountains.

Everyday is a new beginning. Everyday is an op to choose the direction you desire most, whether it’s learning to cook Chinese or reaching out to old friends. Make the effort. See the magic around you by tuning into the beauty.  Stay positive; be mindful. Take responsibility for all your choices. No shame. No blame. Be grateful for the good around you. Love your body. Laugh. Step out of the past and into the present. Stay in the flow of your personal river versus systematically and automatically swimming against the current by doing the same ol’ rote everyday, (repeat repeat repeat, reload) or making poor choices and doing things that are incongruent with your core values. Love yourself. Be willing to accept change. Take action. Stand in your light. Be the light. When you do, we globally unite in spirit and create our cosmic garden. This is how you/we/I create Eden.”

 

 

Cosmic sunshine to you. ☀️

 

candiasanders.com

Posted in Behaviors and bad habits, Conscious Death, Death and Dying, Energy healing, Good Vibes, Grief, Healing, healing tools, Healing, Health, Spiritual Concepts, Health of the Planet, intuitive knowing, relationships, Spiritual wellness | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

“Our Thoughts Are That Powerful”

A young woman worried that her girlfriend wasn’t sharing enough time communicating with her got exactly the results she dreaded: her girlfriend stopped texting and calling, to the moment she feared most: breakup.

The flip of the coin:

7B700620-6868-484C-8026-FF0099CD1CF0

A man in his mid fifties desiring a new job environment due to a cultural takeover, worried and fretted he was going to be blamed for departmental employee departures, was subsequently reprimanded and given notice.

The flip of the coin:

EC5805AD-6609-4519-AC05-7FDA8E355767

A young man on the plethora of today’s dating sites, is totally convinced he’s not ever going to have someone match up with him: you guessed it. The apps are quiet.

The flip of the coin:

0597B072-C859-49C0-819E-9BEA80F63616

A gentleman married for forty years is separated from his wife on a weekly basis due to current job changes, throwing a new curve ball into their relationship, that’d previously moved at a particular pace through the decades. He’s concerned she’s more involved with her job than him. The answer is…yes…his fears and worries are coming true.

The flip of the coin:

B2E48196-00BF-40C2-BC1E-56B6B6CFE7D0

Here’s the kicker. If each and every one of them were to shift how they see things, how they view the horizon line before them,  focusing on the positives instead of the negative, the results would literally transform before their eyes.  It truly is like magic. It involves complete trust in ourselves the universe and the ones around us. Trust that what’s unfolding is in our highest and best good. Trust that love is the glue. Trust our intuition rather than relying on other’s opinions.

The truth is we’ve been taught to emotionally worry. Be uptight. To stress out over things that aren’t necessarily true until we believe them into fruition. Just imagine if our girl were to relax, trust and imagine her girlfriend communicating, sharing time, what would transpire?  If our career man were to relax, trust and embrace the community he’s in, appreciating the money he is paid, contribute his best skills, seeing his future bright with possibilities, what the outcome would be? Imagine if our young man were to relax, trust and see himself finding a fun, smart active companion, desiring to share his lifestyle, plan adventures, what would actually unfold? Imagine if our married man were to relax, trust and see his wife happy in her new job, content with the travel and thrilled to be home how much better their relationship would and could be?

Do you feel the difference? Do you see what I am describing? Most of us do the negative dance. If we were to only change our focus our results would be dramatically different. The key is we have to do it. As an example, I took an afternoon hike yesterday. The day wasn’t perfect; it was damp, gray and more wind than I would’ve liked, however I felt invigorated, grateful, happy to have the ability to get out and enjoy the outdoors, embrace nature. I literally thanked all the juniper trees as I walked by.  When we take the time to flip the coin, stay in the positive ‘what if‘s’ versus the negative ‘what if‘s,’ staying in the present moment, being grateful for all before us, our lives change. Like with me yesterday, it never rained the two hours I was on the trail.

What’s on our horizon line that we have the ability to see differently, notice the magic? When we actively make this a daily prerogative, a choice and focus, our lives will definitely be more in alignment.

Just saying…

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.

 

 

candiasanders.com

Posted in Behaviors and bad habits, Brain Functions, Good Vibes, Healing, healing tools, Healing, Health, Spiritual Concepts, intuitive knowing, Intuitive Listening, Learned Behaviors, psychic insights, Romance, Spiritual wellness | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

“Mental Intercourse: Emotional Orgasm”

So…What turns you on? Seriously.  Yes I’m talking about sex though really not exclusively. I’m talking what seriously curls your toes? Makes you excited to get up in the morning, you can’t stop thinking about it?  Becomes the focal point of your thoughts? Is it love? Or..? Or other ideas and creations you’re passionate about? Passion is critically important to your overall feeling of value, of purpose in the world. It makes you feel alive. But today’s passionate topic is a brief exploration of sexual foreplay.

Sex ironically is what makes the world go round and is the basic creative element underlying the explosion of life on earth. It’s worth exploring the passionate side of it, what motivates the senses. 

Everyone is different of course.  Passion, the Stimulation that gets our mojo flowing, can come in many packages. It’s amazing though how many don’t know what it is, what passion means. Too many things have swept it under the rug. And I’m talking way beyond the typical, mostly male response of, “I just want to fuck her,” stimulation, that quick gratification. Is that really passion anyway or something more base?  It’s a compliment but also boorish. I’m talking honest intensity and passion that have the potential to be more than fleeting, based on something beyond lust. It’s this “something” that turns up the endorphins, kicks in the pheromones. It also turns on the love juices.

Personally, it’s mental stimulation, a fantastic enticing intriguing informative fast- moving alluring conversation, a charismatic debate, a sizzling discourse between people where ideas are literally bouncing off the ceiling, jumping off the floor, falling out of photographs on the wall. Innuendoes, double entendres, seductive word graphology.  It’s the creative process of melding provocative facts and sensuous ideas, manifesting magnetic concepts and richly interactive-electrical-connectivity. This chemistry seduces the mind. It feels like the intoxicating effects of a bottle of dark sultry whiskey. That smooth husky warm sensation heating the interior of my sensual mind. It’s like lighting a pheromone match inside my being. Mental intensity and fiery flirtation combine. Temperatures rise, laughter deepens. Mental intercourse.

Ironically intercourse is a synonym of conversation. So perfectly matched.

F71426F3-E8BA-4DBA-951B-D9914CBE395F

Because let’s face it. Sex is a mental game first. Why do you think so many women don’t have orgasms? Their mind-love juices aren’t stimulated. Sorry guys. It’s true. About 75 percent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone — that is without the extra help of sex toys, hands or tongue. And 10 to 15 percent never climax under any circumstances.”

D291D838-E4CE-4812-B679-2016BFEE03ED

Mental intercourse goes way beyond the bedroom. When two people make the concerted effort to stay mentally stimulated for themselves and then with each other, the percentages rise considerably on the connectivity scale. The longevity yardstick. That stimulation has far-reaching tendrils of confidence and independence enhancing the relationship even further.

Bonus material is when a woman’s mind is stimulated, where she feels valued and appreciated is when the emotional orgasm hits a home run into the outer fields of true love making. The fireworks go from the head to the heart. (See last blog on “The Age of Aquarius: The Magnificent Head and Heart Combo-Dance. It’s Begun.” That’s a macro view, this is the micro on the same topic seen through a different lens.)

95AB5233-9546-4185-A8CF-C39A3C2A9BC7

This is what we aspire – to be more passionately aware, to be who we are capable of being, to reveal unabashedly our emotionally raw interiors. Be in our hearts. True Intimacy. Have our relationships mirror our strengths and weaknesses, ignite our passions, speak to our interior selves and connect us to the creative cosmos within our souls. This is the magical alchemical union fairytales are written about and most crave.

And that is why mental intercourse for me is a doorway, a portal into vast passionate corridors.

For you, your doorway could be something different. The key may be put away, hidden somewhere within your psyche, however it’s always there. Find it. Reach for your passions. They make the differences in feeling truly valued and alive.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.☀️

 

candiasanders.com

 

Posted in Good Vibes, healing tools, Intimacy, intuitive knowing, Love and Romance, Masculine and feminine, relationships, Romance, Sex, Spiritual wellness | Tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment