It’s the middle of the month – and it’s gorgeous. Really feels like the beginnings of summer though I’m not holding my breath. It could be taken away so quickly and another storm rush in and dump rain or even snow. Just over a week ago we had fresh snow delivered on the surrounding hills. In the meantime, I take nothing for granted and am in total gratitude for the beautiful weather.
How’s the “May Challenge” fairing for you? Upped any of your walks or work-outs? Pushed towards a new level of vitality? Managed stress any better or worked through emotional challenges? The more you strive for balance in every area the better you will feel.
I believe one of biggest issues creating imbalance is the lack of honesty. I mean total honesty. We’re so worried we’ll be rejected and shunned we forget to express how we truly feel. Or we avoid it or both. I can cite example after example of not being totally honest with ourselves to the point where we aren’t honest with those we love. Even after 35 years of marriage, I have heard individuals say, “I can’t possibly tell him how I truly feel.” My question is ‘Why not?” “Because he might not love me anymore, or he might leave,” was the reply.( Fear, it always comes back to fear.) In reality would that really happen if we approached it through a new lens for positive change? I made a giant commitment to myself after my divorce. I would speak my truth, no matter how difficult the situation or feelings. I know I can be perceived as being blunt, however the difference in the outcome has been tremendous. It hasn’t been easy, especially with an over-RE-ACTive husband, however I have zero, and I mean Zero, resentment. (Resentment ensues and piles up impacting our nervous system and stomach meridian when we allow other’s power over what is important to us – our truth.) What a difference and I “feel” so much better all around.
When we speak about what is bothering us with love and appreciation in our hearts for this particular situation to arise so we can heal the perspective challenge it has the ability to transform us and take us to a higher level of awareness. This is one of the best stress relievers there is; speaking (y)our truth. “Yes I’d love to do something tonight.” “No thank you, I would prefer to stay home.” “Yes I love you, however I’m not overly fond of this behavior.” “No I am not comfortable with that.” “I apologize, my work load is full and I can’t get to this today, however perhaps tomorrow will be easier.” etc etc… This is just as applicable for children speaking to their parents as it is the other way around or between lovers or other relationships. Taking it a step further, wouldn’t it be fantastic if Nations were to speak boldly, honestly and with appreciation for each other? Our world would drastically change for the better however it has to begin with individuals for things to change radically in the bigger dynamic.
The best part of speaking your truth is it improves your health, especially the heart and heart meridian. It opens the love frequency, dispelling the hurt and anger moving it to forgiveness. You can only truly forgive someone else if you are willing to look at your part in the situation, see through their eyes, and comprehend the situation from a higher view. When this takes place, the healing in your cells is truly remarkable. (I had to forgive myself through my divorce and see where I was just as negligible in the demise to be able to forgive my former husband.)
This moves us back to the May challenge of vitality and vibrancy. Speaking our truth moves us one step closer the the level of strength, stamina, and aliveness we all seek. Allowing truth to come in and sweep our bodies (emotional, mental, physical and sexual) with love and forgiveness changes everything. The key is to not be afraid. We have nothing to lose and everything to gain; most importantly our self esteem and even bigger, our connection with Source.
Yesterday I saw the coolest thing; five rocks of various sizes balanced on a floating piece of driftwood. It was created by the moving waters of spring snow melt. It was very Zen-like and reminded me of the magic around us. I spoke my truth to the water, the rocks, the heavens in gratitude for the message.
Mantra for May: speak your truth with love.
Cosmic sunshine to you.