“Till Death Do Us Part: Leaving the Body, the Light, Continued Messages and Communication”

My husband died in my arms last week. He wanted to pass away at our cabin in the woods: we made that possible. But no matter how prepared we believe ourselves to be, the moment a loved leaves their body, a new realization sweeps into our consciousness; the universe just altered. I completely believe we are eternal and far grander than our bodies, however, our human experience teaches us such incredibly deep emotions ~ grief, sorrow, pain, shock, loss, ~ that no matter how spiritually or religiously connected one feels, those emotions still are part of the package. They just are. I seldom cry unless watching movies or commercials or at weddings, however I’ve cried a small sea in the past week. However, with that said, amazing miraculous things have happened that are simply brilliant. The first one was a very conscious departure or death. (I’d like a new word personally….death conjures so much negativity)(See “Death needs a Make Over” posted December 3, 2014, blog)

I knew Wednesday was the day. I just knew. In the morning, the Eagles were talking as they flew over the cabin. Another sign. In the afternoon his breathing became more beleaguered due to the body and especially his lungs, filling with fluids. I lay beside him sharing visualizations about letting the body go, walking to the light, releasing the “silver cord” – the cosmic umbilical cord connecting the soul to the body. I held him close. I knew he was out of his body yet a part of it still, as he let me cuddle and caress him, something that’d had been uncomfortable the night before. My younger son rubbed his legs and gently talked to him.

By then the other family members nerves were fried from the ordeal that had begun the previous Friday. They voted as a team to call an ambulance to take him to a hospice facility. They felt he’d be more comfortable, yet I knew the opposite to be true. He was where he wanted to be. It gave comfort to my family which was needed. It also provided an impetus.

I shared with him he had basically two hours before the ambulance arrived. I explained he’d be taken to the hospice facility, something I knew he didn’t want, nor did I. We were where he and I wanted to be. It was our agreement. At twenty minutes I told him he’d better get on it. I said, “Dale Ross, don’t make me mad! It’s the last thing you want. You’re on a countdown!” As the ambulance pulled in ~ we were an hour and thirty minutes from town in our off-grid cabin so you can understand the significance of the return trip ~ I told him, “Okay they’re here,” his breathing up to that point was still quite hard and labored. The emotional tie to me, to us, our life, was still very present. I didn’t move till the two paramedics came in and asked what was needed. As they left the room to get equipment, I moved to his side, my hands on his legs, watching his face, I could feel his breathing change. It was an immediate deliberate movement. I briefly turned to the men as they walked in and said “He’s gone, he’s leaving now.” At the exact moment they walked in he jumped out. It was miraculous. I watched his eyes expand and open, his mouth relax, the tongue twist as his body released his soul. It was like the Egyptians explained, about the soul containing weight. His body became lighter yet heavy and still. I exclaimed to him, “You did it! I’m so very proud of you! You did it the way you wanted.” It was brilliant.

On the practical side there are a few other factors worth mentioning. First of all, hospice provides morphine and oxycodone for pain, and lorazepam for breathing and calming. We found the best combo was actually cannabis oil, specifically Rick Simpson Oil, and lorazepam for pain and relaxing, without the bad side effects of opiates. He was able to be conscious yet without severe pain. I believe this to be a very vital and important component in the death dance that is missed in today’s universal fear of death. The common course is to over medicate to erase the fear and pain of both the patient and family. I believe the more able we are to participate and communicate in our final moments the less fearful the departure. And if the pain can be kept at a minimal through other means, such as cannabis, then absolutely we need to seize it.

Symbolically, there were also many magical and significant clues dropped into my consciousness indicating the divine synchronicity of the entire event. First of all, 2016, 2 + 0 + 1 + 6 = 9, which is the number of completions. He died on the 27th, also another 9. Double completion. He died exactly at 6:40 pm which is a 1. The number symbolizing new beginnings for both of us. This was our 13th year together, we were married on the 13th, and numerologically this is a 13 year for me, which is the number of major transformation under the sign of Scorpio, my husband’s sun sign. My birthday was three days later and we had miraculously 13 people hiking along the Lewis River here in Washington.  Astrologically Dale had entered a grand square which for me symbolized the great doorway he passed through to continue his journey on the other side.

Sweet Chemistry

Sweet Chemistry

I watched as his soul departed and moved to the light. I didn’t feel his energy again till the next morning when I heard the Eagles talking. It was brief but there. Could’ve been my energy was too dense, too tired to hear or to sense his presence. By the weekend I was feeling better and able to connect. I had a dream in present tense, where I ran up to him laughing, hugging him while he sat at his desk and asked him about the “Other Side.” Said he didn’t want to break the connection. Then he went back to work.

Subsequently, I’ve been in contact with him nightly. I take time to meet him at the river-of-life to talk and share wisdom. I’m going to start writing our sessions together as I feel they’ll only expand.

And one more fun thing. Two nights ago, out of normalcy, I started to text Dale. Funny right? But it’s as if he’s away on a trip. I pulled up the text then pushed the “message” button however it remained on the screen. I literally had to turn off the phone and reboot. I clicked over to texts and it remained for a second with multiple texts on the screen then it automatically clicked back to Dale’s text without me doing anything. Pretty direct. I laughed and told him thanks for the clear message.

I was sending out a card and CAPTCHA appeared to validate I wasn’t a robot. Can you guess what the words were? DALE AVE.

I know beyond a shadow Dale is thriving in his special corner of the universe. I know too, our conversations, our connection will continue to expand.

Love and life are forever.


Cosmic sunshine to you.




About Candia Sanders

I love life! I love the abundance, beauty, magnificence, color, emotions, prolific sensuous joys, relationships, animals, nature, spiritual "magic"- the Aliveness - of which humanness reveals. Combine that with sharp, keen intuitive insight and it's a recipe for fun in the fast lane. Intuitive since young, combined with a natural ability to heal has created an arena where possibilities are open and opportunities abound. International Intuitive and Energetic Healer, Medical Intuitive, Psychic
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21 Responses to “Till Death Do Us Part: Leaving the Body, the Light, Continued Messages and Communication”

  1. Debra Richards says:

    Loved your sharing that with me this evening … Tears of sadness and joy are streaming… The two worlds are closer than we can imagine… Your experiences with the beyond are the proof. Debra Richards in Bend Oregon with love. Sent from my iPhone


  2. Judy says:

    Dear Candia , What a Beautiful story….. I cried too, thinking of the Love you two shared, & how none of us know how much time together we have on this earth……Take away…It’s time to get busy Loving, & Living,no excuses!I Thank you for being such a Ray of Sunshine even in your grief….You truly are an “Enlightened One” to handle life so Gracefully,with all its ups & downs. You have been an inspiration to Linus & I since we met….Sending you & your family Big Hugs & Much Love Always, Judy & Linus

  3. Teena says:

    Not surprised at all! You have an incredible ability to embrace whatever life throws at you. You are amazing. 😘

  4. dragonflyzia says:

    I am so sorry for your loss.

    • Thank you for reading my blogs, commenting and sharing your sweetness with me. I really appreciate you being out there in the world and being part of my circle. I thank you much for your condolences.

      Hugs to you,

  5. Candia, I’m counting your blessings with you. I posted this on the Baruch Bashan network on Facebook where much more of this activity is.

    • Bruce, how very kind of you. Thx for sharing that information as I didn’t know about the group. I’ll check it out. I appreciate you and all the good things you have shared with me. And your kindness.
      Cosmic goodies,

  6. Lisa Bonnice says:

    Wow. Such an incredible story. I’ve shared it on facebook. Thank you so much for sharing it here. ❤

  7. Lisa McCourt says:

    Hi Candia! I saw this by chance on FB and wanted to reach out to see if you’d be interested in seeing it published. I’m a ghostwriter currently working on a compilation book with Hierophant Publishing and James Van Praagh that will be a compilation of true stories about meaningful connections with the other side. Message me if you’d like more info!

  8. Marji Brim says:

    Dear Candia, I think of you often since I met you. I’m so glad that you got to say Good-bye the way the two of you agreed. I did that for my husband as well. It amazes me to see that nearly two years have passed. I love the connection that you show between the two of you. Clearly Dale watches over you, & will continue to do so. You are in my thoughts & prayers. Take care of you, Marji

    • Marji, thank you for taking time to write and send caring thoughts. Two years already? Time zooms by so quickly and life continues on. We just have to jump back into the waves whether we are ready to swim or not. I’m sure you can relate to that sentiment. I do believe Dale is hovering close. I can feel him, see him and hear him. It’s pretty amazing really. I appreciate you sensing the same. Big hugs to you!

  9. Brad says:

    What an incredible story Candia! I know how awesome it is to get that very first confirmation that our loved one made it to the other side and can still find ways to clearly communicate with us.

    When my Mom passed, it was only ~36 hours until she came through very clearly in a reading, courtesy of Renee who was the Guest Intuitive at Alice Street the next day. I was able to record the message and even played it for my Dad and brothers. They were a bit skeptical at first, all four of us are Electrical Engineers, but in the end they really understood and appreciated the confirmation that her consciousness continued beyond her body’s death.

    • Brad, thanks for sharing your story. Love the synchronicity of all the events, how wonderful for the family. Not sure if you’ve read my previous blogs since the first of February but they’re this continuing journey since his passing, including his death. Sending hugs, Brad. Great to hear from you.

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