Have you ever thought about your overall life theme? Your life thesis? What you came here to learn, do, be? Because you do have one, or several or better yet, multiple emotional life exercises and dissertations to embrace, embody and carry with you on “departure.”  The choice is yours to accept, expand, avoid or negate, to do again if needed when you’re ready in another lifetime spin.

The lifetime themes can be wrapped around a multitude of challenges and major learning curves from opening our hearts fully to love, grief and loss, communication in every kind of forum in personal to public arenas, family dynamics, sex and it’s many colored avenues of one partner to multiples, monogamy and infidelity, empowerment and self esteem, opening up our personal awareness, observation, intellect, intuition and wisdom, and the heightened code of personal depth, value and integrity, honesty and trust. We can choose to experience the shadow side of these subjects to create diversity and appreciation.  Everyday we are given options to create our best masterpiece.

I also feel these life themes follow us no matter what – through the curves and changes, windfalls and switch-ups we elect and select because we signed up for them. Signed the dotted line upon departure. We literally agreed with our souls to Expand in our human capacities. – Fear often derails are best intentions once we arrive. – If we were to seriously assess and curiously examine the various life chapters in detail, we may discover what was planned once-upon-a-time with this person or that job or location and didn’t happen or unfold, often shows up again with another face and place till we get the emotional gist, the deeper heart strings attached so as to gain greater depth. It’s the old repeat theme again.

I’ll share a couple examples. Hopefully they’ll offer insight for personal examination of life themes as the more we know and unravel the deeper aspects of ourselves, our personalities and soul complexities, the happier and easier and more joyful this ride is.

When I was 24, I was offered a great job with Crazy Shirts of Hawaii. They were going to move me to Oahu to learn the biz for six months then move me to LA to open my own store. Silly me didn’t take the damn job, why? Because I wanted to stay in Hawaii and not move to LA. I was young what can I say? Bad choice or was it? At 27, a week after my return from traveling Europe by myself for nearly a year, a Lifer (my nickname for my lifetime friends) called and asked me to housesit for her in Malibu. How could I pass on that? Living above the Pacific in a servant’s house, the ocean lulling me to sleep nightly? Oh yeah baby! While they traveled I lived there for six weeks having gotten a job in the valley, then found a cute place to live in North Hollywood. LA. I ended up there anyway. It wasn’t about the job it was about the location, the experience and the people who are still in my life because of it. It’s the emotional adventure that’s the gold.

In my mid-twenties I dated back to back two men who were the oldest and the youngest guys in my dating career. I was engaged to be married to the man 12 years older. I called the wedding off weeks before the event only to start dating this wildly fun and adventurous and yes, very sexy young man seven years younger. Okay, he was a baby, pretty and handsome, but a very fun one. I stayed friends with both. Ironically years later,  both died of cancer one year apart. I remember thinking wow, I’d have been a young widow either way if we’d stayed together. But irony or rather my life-theme-commitment to assist someone with their illness, obviously cancer, be there for them, share their fears and small victories and personally move into early widowhood happened anyway. I obviously signed up for this gig as one way or another it was going to unfold. The bigger point was it didn’t matter the person or relationship as much as the experience of cancer, loss and moving through the emotional tsunami. The commitment to learning this emotional theme appears even on my hands, my palm handprint analysis; sharing sadness with a broader audience to expand perceptions. Big lifetime learning curve no matter which path or person I chose.

People or rather our soul buddy pals sign up to assist our travels, our adventures, our lifetime assignments to share in the guts and gore and glory to amp the ride, broaden the weft, splash on the color. I thank these three men for adding value and true heart deepening awareness in my life. Due to being a free-will-planet, our soul buddy pals can move along the life playing board throwing the dice and moving where they desire all the while assisting us. If they move too far out of our orbit someone new will step up to fill their shoes to match our personal story.  Like my husband did years later after I’d left both earlier relationships. It’s truly a fascinating adventure with all the players moving in unison even when it appears from our limited vision to be the opposite and out of sync. The perfectly orchestrated Divine spin is still in progress.

It’s a beautiful thing.

I highly recommend examining your life chapters, see the synchronicities, the familiar themes and assess the learning that was gained, -the overall emotional story- because there are patterns, similarities, repeats, and reverse osmosis. Same story different person but the lessons the same.  Affairs you were pissed off and hurt by only to do the same to someone else. What was learned in the process if anything? Compassion, empathy, understanding? Because then you learned what you signed up for- otherwise…repeat. Jobs you complained about only to find the same job repeated along the career path. Did you change strategy or remain the same? What was gained? Changed? Understood? Move to a new location only to have the same themes play out with new players? New realizations? Added perceptions? Your health and vitality? What is illness or disease teaching you? Have you garnered the information and knowledge? What emotional awareness is to be gained? There’s a theme happening, something incredibly rich to be learned and when you get it, see it and add into your tool chest of experience, you are happier, more self empowered, more open and caring, deliberate with your thoughts and actions. The goal is being tuned to that opening, that expansiveness in awareness, the deepening of yourself so as to merge into the greater consciousness of the cosmos.

These are the soul reasons you/we/I sign up for the commitments we agree to experience  – to leave this venture wiser richer deeper from the story.

Cosmic sunshine to you.

Candia Sanders is an international medical intuitive, high-frequency energy healer, motivator, speaker, teacher, author, the ultimate optimist, and outdoor enthusiast, who has helped thousands of people ease their medical issues, navigate important relationships and find their soul’s purpose and life direction. Candia is the author of the transcendent book, “Soul Rays: Discover the Vibratory Frequency of Your Soul“. She has also written a lively magical and spiritual children’s adventure called “The Adventures of Jack Starr, In Hawaii.” “When Eagles Soar: From Diagnosis, to Death and to Open Dialogue” is her story through cancer and beyond, with her husband who died in 2016. Her goal is to create a new conversation about Death.

Upcoming books: “I Don’t Know, It’s a Mystery: 11 Prompts to Awaken Your Cosmic Connection” ”The Four R’s: Rules to Navigate Life’s Big Questions,” “Head Off, Heart On: Salacious Delights and Tantalizing Treats for Happy Relationships”