What’s makes us happy? I mean, really? We tend to make things complicated, thinking we need the perfect career, make a million dollars then we’ll be happy. We need to have the love of our lives, then we will be happy. We externalize our happiness quotient outside ourselves instead of reaching within. Same story, different page, same story, different blog. Same story, different person. We have been taught this by our cultural expectations, our families, our history. Hopefully by now with all the self-help, self-awareness available, more would recognize and see a different path to happiness however we really haven’t moved far off the merry-go-round. Depression and high-anxiety run rampant. Remember, depression deals with the past and anxiety is future driven; neither are in the present.
I feel it’s essential to identify the moments, the experiences, the traditions and habits that bring happiness into our daily routines. Yes, I recognize there are things required in being human we can’t avoid like paying taxes, aging, brushing our teeth upon waking. I mean really, even the rich and famous don’t wake up with perfect sweet breath. However it’s in the little things where happiness can be reached and touched everyday if we put our awareness into it completely. Embracing the moment with appreciation and gratitude changes the energy for the rest of the day, brings special opportunities and a sense of completion as we drop off to sleep.
Each day we are born again. What we do today matters most. Buddha
What does bring a smile? What does bring happiness inside our hearts?
Identify what doesn’t and reach for the opposite. As an example I have truly discovered how much I resist social media. I know it’s smart business-wise yet I truly do not enjoy the time suck required to post this and that. I don’t. I resist, procrastinate and don’t do it like an errant child. Well, it doesn’t bring me joy, so….next. What does?
To me, this is how we narrow our focus, our daily telescope of thought, projection and action into what does propel us forward, no resistance, no complaining. Like an evening cup of tea staring at the night sky and seeing falling stars with a full moon; this is a Wow! The more we recognize our habits, good and bad, what we resist, what we reach for, the easier it is to identify the daily happiness generators.
There is a percentage of humanity (because animals are just happy be-ing) that reach for intoxicants, drugs, the alcohol to create that happiness, that inner fulfillment…to be out-of-their- minds. In a heavily mind based society it is a way of escaping the over-thinking, over-analyzing way of life. Okay, their story, no judgment. But there might be a better healthier path to creating a more heart-filling daily plug-in lifestyle. Besides if a person were truly happy they’d be reaching for the things that feed their souls, nourish their hearts, stimulates the mind. And to me, that’s the ultimate goal of being alive.
*Identify what brings a daily smile. Expand on it everyday.
*Stay out of resistance. If you’re resisting, then it’s time for a change-up. This is a Big One.
*Follow your heart’s guidance, not your ego’s. Therein is the key. This pertains to everything from job direction to sex to loving relationships.
*What nourishes your heart? What feeds your soul? Stimulates your mind? Seek it. Do it.
Its all too easy to go into the negative head-spin. When you do, jump off the merry-go-round, and find the things –Every Single Day– to have appreciation for, that stimulate the love juices.
Really cool stuff happens when you do.