Have you ever paid attention to the repeating patterns in your life, the emotional triggers that show up on a regular basis? These are the ones that instantly create an uncomfortable feeling, a discomfort somewhere in your body. The patterns that drive you crazy but you don’t know why, the statements, behaviors around you which elicit a negative reaction. And if you are in the midst of business, chaos, hectic daily activities, it’s more difficult to discern the whats and whys of how you feel. You react instead of respond. It sucks really, as the pattern then repeats itself and you come face to face again with the warp.

I know, it happened again last night. My husband and I got together with my brother-in-law and innocently in conversation, he mentions my husband’s past, linking him to “Two and a Half Men”, the TV show. He said it to be funny and for both of them it was, however for me, it brought up an uneasiness in my solar plexus.  That gut-punch sort of feeling; the ones you hate to have. The fact this has been a repeating pattern in our relationship reminded me Once again, it’s about me and not him.

How this happens I’m not sure, but it always is about ‘us’, and not the other person. It forces us to look at what we’re afraid of, where we have insecurities and fear and where they become lodged in our physical form. And until we’re literally willing (maybe not so willingly) to examine, ferret out, discern and distinguish where these emotions originated so we can change them, they will show up again and again till we force ourselves to look within and be honest with ourselves.

Fears originate somewhere in our past, whether in the here and now or in some parallel reality, all of which are real and true, which impacts our perceptions, beliefs,  views and re (again or back) act (to do) tions (act of being). (‘The act of going back again and again’ -whew!!) When we are finally, decisively willing to look in our mirror, see the fears for what they are – tools- to teach us to go beyond our-self, the situation, then maybe, we can convincingly move forward to a state of peace and harmony within. Sometimes though we don’t like what we see in the reflection.

I had some soul searching myself this morning; fear, feelings of being ‘less than’, moving into -‘oh ya!’- judgment, contempt, false pride….I had to go where the fears and chastisement originated – my childhood, absorbing my mom’s emotions, teenage angst, the media, disparaging comments, and a few parallel lifetime memories of being the randy rogue and prostitute. Lovely huh? Fear, always back to fear. I had to come face to face with my part of the picture, letting go of judgment, as in the end I only judge myself.

Identifying the issue is the biggest challenge, AND being willing to take charge and change it. Most of these fears hang-out in our lower chakras, the energy centers focused on our adrenal glands and sexual organs.  (Let’s see, hmmm, security, finances, safety, sex, joy, self esteem, confidence, body weight – think maybe these are our major issues??) My belief is when we get these centers running clearly, balanced and aligned with grace, love and forgiveness, fear dissolves, our body responds and becomes healthier, opening the pathways to the upper chakras and endocrine system. An incredible win/win all around.

How to do this? Start with the fears and emotional patterns repeating the challenges and find where they land in the body – weight, lack of confidence, sexual anxiety, lack of will power, lack of financial creation, sadness or lack of joy, no self esteem, impatience, frustration – and hold the energy, the frequency of feeling, embracing it/them and thanking them for the gifts of learning, letting go with love the lesson, allowing you to move forward.  Hold the emotions, squeezing them in your hands, dissolving them with love and light, removing them from your being.  Release them into the fire of the past, burning the patterns to ash, igniting the phoenix within to fly and be free.

Cosmic sunshine to you!

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