Emotions run deep in all of us. Even individuals who suppress their deepest desires, fears and hurts, still carry the emotional stories within their personal fabrics, woven into the very cells of the body. We’re taught as good children to be nice, caring, compassionate, kind – to not let our darker emotions get in the way or take over. I agree but only to a point.
Our darker shadow sides are here for a reason; to not only teach us the definitions and meanings of these emotional intimations, but for us to feel them, live them, embrace the ugliness, to own them, allowing us to move on. It releases the fear wrapped around possible negative outcomes associated with the characterization. The sooner we cradle them, the sooner we’re able to recognize their worth, shaking off the negative, like water from a dog’s fur, to dry off in the sun of receptivity and joy. It’s all the more fulfilling to have the comparison of the what one doesn’t want in a relationship to fully accept and be open to what one truly desires.
Opening ourselves to these fears changes our chemistry, our health. All those suppressed emotions create the stresses, duress, and illness we manifest in our bodies. Imagine if all those emotions came to the surface like molten lava from deep vents within, to erupt, flow and change composition-molten to solid, liquid to stone- negative to positive, shadow to light -how much better we’d feel. It’s in the suppression, resentment appears along with a myriad of unhealthy feelings, which keep us stuck in past programming and not in the present.
It is more difficult for individuals who are alone. They have no one to mirror their feelings, their stories and subplots to highlight their journey. The invitation is for them to participate in life, with strangers even, to see the subtleties and complexities within themselves. For those in relationships with a partner, parents, siblings, co-workers, remember each is vital to the whole, every individual is a part in your play, assisting in the fine molding of your personality and what you choose to focus upon. The ones who love you most are the ones willing to stay in the fray, voice what is from their perspective, even if it isn’t in alignment with yours, to sharply delineate your multiple characteristics, sculpting the beauty within, fine-tuning who and what you are.
The vital and key relationships are in our lives to aid in our transformations. The ones most difficult provide the best and brightest opportunities for release, change and strength. Be grateful to those in your life willing to stand with you in the quicksand, challenge you, fight back, loving you enough to be your mirror till you finally get your part in the story, where you fit in the chapter. I married the most challenging man I’ve ever spent time with. He pushes me to the last straw till I get angry, sometimes so mad I could just throw something at him. He has brought out my warrior side, forcing me to address this shadow aspect. And he’s like an oak, strong and confident, loving me enough to push me again, till I choose to readdress the situation, taking a new direction to his heckling. And when I don’t Re-act, (Re instantly puts us in the ‘past’, reacting to prior incidents, rather than from the present) he stops the needles. I am truly stronger for this, weird as it might be. I am not afraid of confrontation, am braver, and will demonstrate my strength with love.
The key is balance. Remembering to sheath my swords is the remedy, keeping them silent and still. Knowing they are available, ready for action, is a hidden safety net of strength. When you are a willing participant in the dramas which unfold weekly, it gives you the advantage of being Pro-active, the professional in navigating the emotions within yourself. And when you do this, those suppressed emotions are no longer suppressed, but free. And you are healthy and happy as a choice.
I believe reality on earth is to demonstrate and illustrate these phenomenally, amazing colored emotions so we can step into the rainbow of life, fully capturing and wearing them like heaven.
Cosmic sunshine to you.