I thought I might be able to move through January without an overly-emotional exaggerated explosion from someone or others around me, but I was mistaken. Perhaps it was because I predicted 2013 as a year of relationship upheavals I created it, however I’m hearing from multiple sources it’s not just me. Things are heating up all over. I even had one client, she’s so cute, who asked since her last week was total chaos, did that mean she’d be exempt for the rest of year? I’m hoping for the rest of the month.

Not being a pessimist it feels strange to be suggesting being mindful and aware of emotions close to the surface in others or yourself. I feel we’re experiencing what I call ‘bleed-throughs’, emotional memories from different aspects of ourselves out there on the space-time continuum  showing up so we can get off the cyclical friggin’ merry-go-round. We can’t  change our emotional reactions till we deal with them. Lucky us. Some bleed-throughs will even go into the physical body, showing up as aches and pains that have no logical current source, to even scars appearing out of thin air. These are from memories, events happening to an ‘aspect’, a thread of our soul, a counter-part in a parallel life. These emotional roller-coaster soap operas can also be events coming to the surface from a blood-line memory or a childhood disaster or fear-generated event.

I’ll offer an example. A case-study. A man who has anger issues that erupt out of nowhere and aren’t realistically based on any current event, has Native American blood which impacts his cellular memory field. His 100% Native grand father was an angry man most of his life, go figure, right? He drank; made it worse. Ironically he never knew his grandfather, however those emotional feelings of suppressed anger come randomly out spewing red fiery sparks of molten rage. And of course if alcohol is involved it amps up considerably. It’s not equal to the event of the moment either. Blood memory on top of childhood events, parental misguidance, societal influences. I was lucky enough to be witness to this wonderful event recently. Now when something like this happens, drawing other’s into the destructive circle is part of the intention, however remaining passive, coherent, rational with definitively clear boundaries is what is necessary.

It is far too easy to take these soap operas personally and yet that is the last thing to do; it will only bring you into their circle of fear. Anger is repressed memories of deep, blood-drawing hurts. The best thing is to allow the wound to come to the surface to heal, putting salve of understanding, honesty and love on the insult,  coating the pain. The safety of the ordeal, the shift in the expressed moment, has the potential to change future events, possibly altering the repeated drama offenders. Remember I’m the total optimist.

These dramatic soap operas of the heart are really great tools for all the people involved. I had to really assess what my part of the situation was if only as a witness to this huge scared chasm rising from his chest, allowing him to vent. I have had subsequent long walks going over the event, rehashing painful words, seeing the hidden holes in them.  I decided to try a different tactic and looked through his eyes at the world. Whoa!! It wasn’t what I expected. It reminded me of a Bosch painting, full of anguish, torment, fear and isolation. But the image was really more succinct;  it was him in a molten lava alone and frightened. No one was there to rescue or save him from himself. I could see myself through his eyes, far away on a distant slope away from the heat.

I came back to myself understanding him all the more clearly. I felt deep empathy for this man where he saw no end to his fears. He’s not alone in this view. That’s why comprehension is imperative if we are to change the way we operate in this reality.  In seeing through his eyes his fear kept him away from his true self; he’d lost connection to his higher soul and Source.

There are several steps to help him or others you might know like him. Of course there is counseling, listening, anti-depression drugs, understanding and empathy, hypnotherapy. Or there is a paranormal cosmic experience where we go sail the clouds together to seek out the source of the inherent heartache reconnecting the energetic cord to his higher self, aligning his energy centers. This I can do. I feel grateful to be of service, to ease his torment.  In seeing them we can change them.

Be open, be aware. It might not be your moment, but someone you love. You can make a difference by being there for them. Hopefully I did too.

Cosmic sunshine to you.