“Wits:” practical intelligence, shrewdness, resourcefulness. Sound mental faculties.”
We’ve all heard our behaviors, who we are, is essentially shaped by the time we are six. We have been imprinted with our parents and grand parents and great grand parents and and and…beliefs, habits, behaviors. The reason, scientists have discovered, is that between the womb and six, infants/toddlers’ minds operate in the Delta and Theta frequencies. That is the same as deeply suggestive hypnotic states and deep sleep. Toddlers’ minds begin to move into Alpha, the restful intuitive state before waking and/or falling asleep, then Beta, fully “awake” as they merge out of six. Scary crazy! Essentially, infants, babies, toddlers-us- are being downloaded an amazing wealth of information and stimulus that may or not be of our choosing. Each generation carries on these behaviors downloading into the next. I’ve always seen this as cellular memory patterns, however I may reformat my perspective into generational brainwashing. Of course, hopefully most programming is intense love, deep nurturing and creative cognitive awareness, however, all we have to do is observe world behavior and recognize enormous repeating historical behaviors, “us” verses “them” mentality. These are old survival mechanisms, us versus the wild beasts, us versus the wild tribes, us versus the aristocracy, us versus “the “Man,” us versus the terrorists etc. Even if these fears are no longer justifiable, the irrational behaviors continue to be passed down generation to generation. These behavioral nuances, fears, and negatively reactive conduct can be from some long lost relative with whom there’s no connection, passed down through the behavioral brain pool.
How many times have we recognized our parents behavior’s in ourselves? How many times have others commented on -unconscious to us- how much we “unwittingly” (key word here- without our “wits”) resemble our parents? How many times have I said, “boy, am I repeating my mother’s story?” How many times have I heard my husband’s father’s Blue-Collar voice, the “working man against the “Man” “getting something for nothing,” thinking, or his mother’s reactive “I’m-ready-for-a-fight-to-feel-alive” behavior. It’s not only due to our living environment it’s also because of how our brains were hard wired as infants, downloaded with old emotional hardware, before we had the opportunity to voice an opinion or chose if this “programming,” these behaviors or beliefs, we wanted to emulate.
So what to do? How do you get out of the never ending, repeating story?
Be Aware. Be the Observor of our own lives. Step out of the busy-ness, out of the emotional mayhem, and observe our life as if it were a TV series. As the Observor, we can see the silly mistakes, the major gafaws, and offer strong sound suggestions. It’ll take repetition till it becomes a part of our everyday behavior. Take five minutes daily upon awakening or five minutes before sleep to turn on our own dials, watch the events unfold and offer constructive positive options for whatever the situation.
It’s a good viable direction for becoming who we truly are. It’s a “waking up” opportunity. But like anything else, needs to become a learned behavior, one to be repeated till it becomes second nature. The good news is it’s ours, yours, my behavior. Our cognitive choice.
Act, learn, take-in, observe, change. Repeat. Not necessarily in that order, just always add in “observe.”
To changing old habits that don’t belong to us. It’s time for a major reboot!
Cosmic sunshine to you.