You might think I’m fibbing or a bit off with my title statement, but it’s pretty true. In my world, people are open and willing to share their darkest truths, revelations and stories. Honestly I don’t care what people have done, it’s their story, as long as their actions, thoughts and intent are honest, true and congruent with their heart, their inner core. Their soul. Therein lies the hiccup. Too many lie to themselves.

I’ve dealt with death, murder, embezzlement, infidelity, mutilple sex partners from 2-6 to orgy, to the sex trade, satanic mutilations on children, reptilians, other-worldly energies trapped in human physicality, drug abuse/heavy addictions, psychic hitchhikers, entities, UFO abductees, partners watching their spouse having sex with someone else, obesity, self mutilation, suicide. What am I forgetting? I have stories. Most people’s stories are tame in comparison. Bottom line is everyone wants to be happy with themselves, with life, with the world. Happy with their choices, no shame, no blame, no resentments, angers or hurts. Ironically if you really get to the core of any of it, all of it, the motivation behind the behavior is essential to understand, to ferret out, to make sense of the story. What motivates people to do the things they do? The things their moral compass knows are pointing them due cattywhampus?

Usually it’s fear ironically. The fear of not being enough, the fear of being looked at as a wimp, a sissy, not man enough, woman enough, sexually avant-garde enough, not rich enough, successful enough, beautiful enough, fear of being left, fear of not being lovable, of wanting to prove they’re something, someone special, getting hooked into the wrong behaviors to convince themselves they are. On the surface perhaps they believe it to be true.

On the side for a moment, as I went through the agonizing decline of my husband and hearing about his disillusionments, his mistakes, failures, regrets, he faced a great deal of himself, of his inner demons, dove into self-reflection in that cancer-time, looked straight-on at on his behaviors and choices. He had huge regrets. He made decisions on what he’d do differently next go round, next life.  Don’t wait till that dying moment to change what truly madly deeply curls your toes, no matter your age. Do it! Do it now! Go for what you dream, desire. Don’t follow the crowd. Carve your own path. Make good directional choices. Step away from things that are not you, not true to your core. 💕

If people can live happily knowing “everything – everyone” was happy with the story, bad choices and poor behaviors, all directions good bad and otherwise, everyone came out fine with the consequences and aftermath – then it’s great. No need for re-do’s or behavior changes. No upgrades. Maybe?

An example:

I recently rewatched Jack Nicholson in “As Good as It Gets.”  He took time for self reflection, something critical to evolution, and came to discover all the women, the huge number he’d slept with, were actually not as happy with him as he’d thought, didn’t think of him as the Greek God, the Casanova, he thought himself to be. It was incredibly revealing for him. So he changed course.

Again, no judgements. The key is having everyone onboard, good with behaviors, where everything is copesetic.

Ironically, like I said, I don’t care what people have done, (especially if they’re internally congruent with the intent and actions and heart motivation) unless they become part of my inner circle, then it changes, I change. My expectations change. I expect people to step up their game, be more if who they are. Be their best. I mean honestly, isn’t that why we are here? To live up to our highest potential? Okay, I’m driven. Probably because I see farther than most, sense more. My story, not yours, not putting that on you.

I apologize to my sons for the huge expectations I have put on them. 

The key with that is, we each have our own highest ideals and yours might not be mine. Or mine not be yours. I tend to push, be focused constantly on the bigger picture, the larger dynamic. I expect a LOT out of people. To learn, grow, expand. Be creative.  Be Conscious. Now that’s not fair of me to push my ideals, my moral compass on anyone so I don’t. I listen instead, guiding others to find their light source within, to follow their heart to their highest ideal, not mine. We are all different sparks in the firecracker.

Just know though, I will encourage, invite, entice, kick you in the arse, to be the best you came here to be, whatever that looks like.

Especially in my inner circles.

Cosmic sunshine to you.

Candia Sanders is an international medical intuitive, high-frequency energy healer, motivator, speaker, teacher, author, the ultimate optimist, and outdoor enthusiast, who has helped thousands of people ease their medical issues, navigate important relationships and find their soul’s purpose and life direction. Candia, intuitive since early childhood, is the author of the transcendent book, “Soul Rays: Discover the Vibratory Frequency of Your Soul“. She has also written a lively magical and spiritual children’s adventure called “The Adventures of Jack Starr, In Hawaii.” “When Eagles Soar: From Diagnosis, to Death and to Open Dialogue” is her story through cancer and beyond, with her husband who died in 2016. Her goal is to create a new conversation about Death.

Upcoming books: “I Don’t Know, It’s a Mystery: 11 Prompts to Awaken Your Cosmic Connection” ”The Four R’s: Rules to Navigate Life’s Big Questions,” “Head Off, Heart On: Salacious Delights and Tantalizing Treats for Happy Relationships”

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