Okay. I admit it. I was raised on Cinderella, Snow White and all those happily ever after Disney films that made every young’s girl heart flutter with possibilities. I grew up with those romantic ideals and love notions compactly stored inside my heart. I was very discerning along the dating path and kept my sights high, my vision of the prince ever-present in the back reaches of my mind. I met a successful, handsome, Montana man with charm and charisma. We were married, had two sons. Cinderella had a bit of a set-back, the idealized notion of love thwarted and squashed. Eventually I intellectualized my emotions, instead of emotionalizing my intellect. Kept my heart safe. Divorce ensued. I married again, Cinderella once again resurrected. I was crazy-giddy in love, happily ever after written in the stars. Well, that didn’t happen either; life had other plans called cancer.
Once in a deeply committed relationship I still lean to that romantic Cinderella ideal. Scary right, how deeply rooted stories and myths are imbedded into our psyches? My psyche, my belief patterns. I have visions of the love-link being so strong there is no room for a wandering eye, the relationship being the center of the love fulcrum, sex and intimacy a driving force, an alchemical union of thought and form. An intuitive intellectual pursuit of expansion mirroring each other, holding each to their best. I know. I’ve experienced this.
Here’s the best twist. I still believe in happily ever after. Why not? Just because there have been other life lessons along the way there’s absolutely no reason I (we) can’t create happily ever after. I believe our fairy tales, stories and myths are reminders life is supposed to be happy, merry, rich-in-love, with happily ever after written all over them. However, this is the fundamental chapter that got left out of the fairy tales: we are the creator’s of our own story, our fable. When we take complete responsibility for our lives in every quadrant, (when we are Response-Able) we then are fully empowered to step up to our highest ideals. We become pro-active in the process. Everything along the way takes on heightened color, our senses alert and alive to the beauty and magnificence of the ride. We fall in love with life. Our happily ever after becomes reality. And if we choose to open-up to a one-on-one relationship again, a partner with the same ideals, values and beliefs (*when we are in alignment with our cosmic selves, the grander part of our essence) arrives in our kingdoms to share happily ever after no matter our juncture or decade.
Grab that pen, write your weekly fairy tale. Seek that true love within, seeing life in all its glory. Believe like I do, that fairy tales really do exist and come true.
Happily ever after begins right now!
Cosmic sunshine to you.
*Being in alignment with ourselves and the cosmic essence within is the vital and even critical piece to creating the best love match we desire, otherwise we attract an unbalanced relationship. As always it begins with us!