“Cracked Rear View: Three Tools to Regain Clarity”

No this isn’t about Hootie and the Blowfish’s breakout album, Cracked Rear View, 1994, though that’s a great album. Glad to see them together on tour. I mean, who doesn’t love Darius Rucker, right? Actually this is more of a visually oriented concept of our emotionally-complicated, demanding, action-driven lives. We tend to look through a cracked rear mirror at our circumstances.

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Think about it. Circumstances arrive. Life moves forward. It stagnates. Good, bad, or otherwise. Shit hits the fan. Our windows shatter and the glass shards scatter on the floor, our emotional selves splintered. We gather the pieces, gluing them back together with determination and tears and move forward the best we are able. When we now view ourselves through our newly reorganized mirrored-glass, our reflection duplicates the multiple reconstructed pieces (emotional aspects.) Our visage is replicated in our mirrors, the people in our personal world, our lives; in other words, the cracked rear view. (Rear meaning the past, staying stuck in past programming.) Over time, with repeat performances, our outlook on our lives becomes broken, shattered, scattered from our true natures, our true reality. We then believe this is the “nature of our reality.” Why? Because this is the way we believe life is. When in truth, it’s not; we have just created it this way.

Ironically too, this lens can become even more complicated with other broken mirrors overlaying ours due to social and familiar influences. In other words we take on others’ stories, driving their broken vehicles with cracked windshields, thinking that is what is required. Soon we are unable to see but through a very narrow limiting corner, yet due to years of conditioning we are no longer aware of what we are actually missing. We continue to repeat the same patterns, the same bad habits, because one, we don’t actually see them for what they are, detrimental to our health and vitality, and or they’re so engrained in our daily fabric, we perpetuate the cracked and dysfunctional traits and behaviors blaming the outside world.

I’m a believer in the power of the mind. I believe we can achieve anything simply by changing -literally- our thinking, our minds. The force and or power behind the mindset shift, is believing it possible, seeing it possible and feeling it possible.

Back to the mirror analogy. There are several tools we can play with to open up our vantage point, to see life through a broader concept, expand awareness and consciousness. Being willing to leave the emotional junk yard behind is essential. Desiring a more whole-some (whole, complete and with some more extras) clear-sighted vision of what we’re here for in this current lifetime, understand the reasons for all the crazy, tumultuous adventures that have shaped our lives, comprehend the reasons behind poor choices, lack of self love, to killer experiences, is the invisible-strong-glass-glue that rebuilds our window. When our lens are clear, the mirror clean and smooth, anything is possible.

Self healing options for restoring the cracked view. Can use one or all in your visuals:

1. See all the cracked and broken pieces as a stained glass window. In your mind recut and organize them into a beautifully intricate and revealing glass window of your life. See life through this colorfully bright and loving lens. In doing this, you are taking your life’s design into your creative hands. You are no longer the broken pieces, you are the artist. Make this a daily visual to begin or end the day. Continue to add and design the life you desire by utilizing the bold stained glass colors in your world.

2. Call in aid if needed, an angel, a prophet, an enlightened being, your higher self. You’re holding the magical and invisible glass glue. You’ve reformed and reshaped all the pieces of your life-lens in exactly the order you desire and have dreamed about. You with help, squeeze the glue into all cracks and crevices uniting the shards into wholeness. All remnants of broken elements have disappeared. You are now clear to see and be your own soul, your own being.

3. In your mind, you are driving life’s abundant highway. The views and attractions spectacular and beautiful. The colors bold, strong and vivid. The windshield is perfectly designed with new high-tech zero-glitch glass. It’s as if there is nothing between you and your experiences, the view authentic, detailed, striking. The side right mirror is cracked. You’ve chosen not to replace it as a reminder your past is past, the cracked rear view  no longer applicable in your new stimulating, creatively-vibrant life.

Repeat daily till it becomes a healthy habit of creativity and strong grounding beliefs.

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How do we know if we need an upgraded perspective, a different viewing platform? If there is a lack of self love. If there are doubts involving our abilities, talents. If there are relationship issues. If there are any and I mean any health issues from perpetual colds, sinus issues, the flu every winter, aches and pains, nervous system issues, depression, anxiety, diagnosed disease, ad infinitum, then it’s time for the cracked rear view to be the side story rather than the one we are currently living.

 

May the stained glass of your reality be stunning, magical, bright and bold.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.

 

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“The 75%-25% Relationship Rule”

What do you think is the purpose of each of our lives? Have you thought about it or do you go about what you’re doing, just doing? From where I sit I believe the most vital pieces are learning our own source of power, our self value and our intrinsic ability to love deeply. Our greatest source of wisdom, learning and joy come from our relationships and all our loves, in all their guises, disguises, and get-ups. The reason is we have the greatest capacity for growth, awareness and self reflection via the relationships avenue. Earth is a wild cacophony of giddy love rushes and crushing heart aches, all with a greater purpose: to expand our awareness.

We all desire heart connections, even those seeking quick fixes and sexual rushes, deep down desire to be valued for their inner beings, their hearts, their souls. That’s why we signed up for this E-ticket ride; to love and be loved. But honestly we really get it screwed-up (literally) a lot. Just look, I mean 100% at your own experiences. What was it that drove you in each connection? Each love interest? Lust? Conquest? Power? Validation you’re a good person worthy of love? True heart connection? Family pressure? Safety? Outward appearances? We stay, we move on. Each connection having laid a frequency stamp in our bodies, in our hearts and in our thoughts that impacts the next relationship. (And sexually – each person you’ve ever had a sexual exchange leaves not only an emotional imprint but also a physical one in your body. Makes one be a bit smarter in their choices because you may not want “that” energy with you a lifetime. Just sayin.’)

When we do click with someone, it’s the good 75/25 rule.  75% works between the smitten individuals at the beginning and basically continues if nurtured. It can grow to 80-85% in time if both parties are willing to expand and experience and value the other. The 25% is the learning curve, what doesn’t work. The 25% can also take over and diminish the 75% shrinking the positive percentage. That’s the time to say auf wiedersehen, audios, farewell, asta’la pizza.  Are they things that can change, be overlooked or are they eventually so detrimental the relationship crumbles?  This sounds cynical however it’s actually not. It’s what we agree to prior to relationship connections. They are our soul contracts to better our frequencies and soul vibrations. As remember everything is frequency. This applies to all relationships whether they are love connections, work related, whatever. The ones we have zing with are our contracts. You know the ones you can’t live with or without? Contracts.

The 25% is our soul guiding us to greater clarity of what we desire or don’t. Options are we can either give into the 25% allowing ourselves to be caught in the dramas, become resentful and angry, or we can compromise too much trying to manage a sinking ship. We hang on often times due to external pressures instead of being true to ourselves. The next element is we can learn to see past the 25% mitigating their negative influences into our experiences. The 25% is also the place of our greatest growth.

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I’ll give you a personal story.

I was with a man for three years that was a Duke graduate, handsome, classy, well dressed, an intellect, sharp and savvy, successful, quick witted and funny, a great athlete, kind and compassionate, insightful, and probably knew me better than any man ever has. He was open to ideas, loved me for who I am, was willing to expand his thinking and concepts, surprised me with trips and exciting vacations, bought things he knew I’d love. He wrote me romantic poetry, took me to theater and concerts and we hiked in the summer, skied in the winter. We had the most voracious long conversations regularly that inspired my thinking, much like fuel to a race car. Pretty idyllic. However, I called the wedding off several weeks before it was to happen. Why? The 25%. They were valid and positively impacted my decision.

Even with all the emotional, mental and physical elements in place, my 25% took over. I listened and let it steer my strong intuition. In my 25% were these issues. Not many really, but big heavy weights for me.  He drank too much. Everyday he’d have several mixed drinks. His father was an alcoholic; not a good lineage. I didn’t want to live with an alcoholic. I’ve never been a big drinker, but I completely stopped in those three years as a mirror hoping for change. He was a smoker. Smoked a half a pack or more a day. He’d had open heart surgery at 16; a recipe just waiting for catastrophe. I gave it three years for a positive shift, long enough to take action. There were also several other factors, one being he was twelve years older; I could see the writing on the wall. Two, for me, he wasn’t driven enough. He was content. I stayed in touch with him through the years and talked to him a week before he died of cancer. My contract was closed. In this case my 25% guided me to my next best adventure. It helped me see past the 75%.

My invitation is to examine all the things you love about your relationships and be honest with that 25%. It sheds light on the best and optimal soul direction. Not every relationship is to last. Not all are meant to fall away. Look at what can be minimized and let go and ones that are deal breakers. Listen to your heart. Not everyone’s 25% is identical; what I’ll sweep under the rug is a nail biter for another. And there’s a 25%- nail biting. Or lack of follow through, not doing what you say you’re going to, control, meanness, lack of generosity, bad habits, being close-minded, lack of intellectual curiosity, lack of class, lack of conscious awareness of self, lack of self reflection, unwillingness to change and grow…..etc etc etc. The 25% adds very clear contrast on what we don’t want, shedding light on their opposites; the attributes we really desire.

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The happiest relationships are the ones where each person is valued and respected, where the give and take is equal, the learning and expansion balanced, each being a good mirror for the other. Each partner brings emotional weight for the offering; “What can I do for you today?” The individuals help the other to become more of who they are, to be their greatest potential. They’re also where the open lines of communication clear the path for the most incredible life adventures. Then the 75% moves to the finish line, obliterating the 25%.

 

To love.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.

 

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“Mind Vacays and Why They Are Important”

Do you ever just take a mind vacay and avoid responsibilities other than the required basics? Trust me, I have, do and did. On one level it’s not a positive as the larger goals are ignored (through one perspective) and on the flip it’s completely solid and rewarding. The reason is it allows room for daydreaming, mediation, new concepts and paradigms and the potential for creating new belief patterns. Beliefs are nothing more than thoughts that can be changed, altered, shifted and reinvented. The balance is one, not beating yourself up for not being outwardly proactive/productive, the second is acknowledging the acquisition of internal insights and self reflection, and three, knowing when it’s time to put it back into hyperdrive. A mind-vacation’s insightful exploration and self awareness will be the fuel of motivation, igniting the creative fires for future endeavors. It’s that simple.

In this over-producing world we forget the importance of initiating mind vacays. I’m not just talking physical vacations but literal mind vacays to allow freedom of expression to permeate the mind, to think beyond obligations, goals and objectives. It sparks the now, the present moment when we step out of the continual churning chaos of mental fatigue. It allows fun into our awareness. Of course this is not about over-indulgence, hedonism or wasted days, (that’s an entirely different trajectory creating all kinds of distortions and off-road pathways) instead it allows the creative universe to merge within our thoughts, our minds and emotions.

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‘And that folks is a grand thing.

Here’s to summer indulgences of mind vacays, off-world travels and self explorations.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.

 

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“Armageddon: the End of the World as We Know it”

I find it ironic that for some time the storyline in shows, movies, books and conversations has been the end of times, the world is going to end, essentially Armageddon. This theme has run throughout our collective unconscious and consciousness and is found in every religious prognostication. I mean, read Ragnarok -the Norse myth/story of destruction. It’s a holy hello of blood and gore and death and extermination, all to have the game begin again. Or Revelation. That reads more like a drugged dark symbolic story of the end of the world that can be interpreted at any historical epoch. (No one knows for certain who wrote it even though it’s was attributed to John, however the writing is inconsistent with his style, not too mention it was discovered 200 years after his death.) Imagine if someone were to write it today, how would we interpret the symbols, stories and theme? 

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Around 1000AD it was believed and rumored it was the forecasted Armageddon. When the Black Plague struck Europe in 1347-1350 (it had originated in Asia) it confirmed the forecasted Revelation was in process. Again. The Bubonic plague continued in short outbreaks every ten to twenty years till the 1700’s. It was estimated that there were over 100 million who died over that 400 year span. Armageddon? Perhaps.

World War I. World War II. I’m sure to millions it was Armageddon.

In 2000, Y2K was going to hit and the world as we know it would be gone. And yet here we are. I heard recently from a client the world is going to end and it’s all Trump’s fault. Seriously?

Yes we are in need of a global clean-up politically – the global elite who’ve pulled the purse strings of every country in the world need an ass-whooping and lock-up. Don’t believe? Read something beyond the central news agencies. They feed us what they want us to believe.  These people are real and evil and corrupt as hell. We need an environmental cleanup in our oceans to the air we breathe. We need to clean-up how we treat one another. We need to collectively be pro-active working towards a positive outcome rather than dwelling on the perpetual negativity of division. We essentially need to get our collective consciousness act together.

Do I feel the world is going to end? Well it hasn’t in 15.8 billion years. What I’d love to see “end” is the focus on duality, the polarity, the hatred and judgement. Let’s join forces and make that our Armageddon. Obliterate the negative forces, beliefs, attitudes and actions replacing them with the light forces of love, kindness, acceptance and honesty. That is the Revelation I believe in, the revealing of a higher truth.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.

 

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“Restoration: Why We Have to Look at Ourselves First”

I have a propane fireplace, installed when the house was built. Due to a faulty unit or bad install it’s emitted a continuous but slow toxic soot over the house. Literally everywhere. Due to high ceilings initially I thought the shadows were just darker defining areas on the walls. My carpets became darker, blacker. Windowsills had black footprints from my cat. A black streak of soot began forming on the outside of the house a yard plus wide. Enough.

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Ironically in today’s world, the fault is quickly passed onto someone else. The system becomes quagmired and nothing gets done. It becomes a blame-game. Bottom line is shit happens. It all depends on how we deal with it that defines the outcome.

Truthfully I probably let it go on too long thinking someone was going to step-up and do the right thing, based on my personal approach to life. That’s not necessarily the way things happen, right? We all have different approaches, beliefs, attitudes and responses. I happened to get the deer-in-headlights, look scared, run and do nothing subcontractor.

I really do believe everything circles back to us, to ourselves, to myself. So what is there to learn from this? *Attitude is number one; good or bad it’s up to me how I handle it. Get pissed and/or stay calm and direct. *Draw the line of demarcation and say, okay, something needs to be done now. It’s easy to procrastinate and wait for someone to step up, which doesn’t happen unless a fire is lit. Charlie the Wonder Dog is snoring loud now, his sinuses, even with magic, are clogged from the soot in the carpet. *Stay firm. Be kind yet direct responsibility to right parties. *Follow through, stay true to course, till finalized. This relates to everything from discourse in our relationships, to our careers, our health. Shit happens. It’s how we approach the situation, the dilemma, from hiding our heads in the sand, to not standing up for ourselves, not taking action, putting up with substandard  communication, involvement, to recognizing our place in the equation and taking responsibility to change the outcome. It’s always our job.

Bigger picture, what’s this about? Is this a mirror into my life? Is there something or someplace that needs restoring? A clean-up? An emotional reorganization? A letting go? Or is it just something that happened being on earth? I feel it has been a clear restoration of my faith, belief, this location was a great choice three years ago when my life was on a shattered, scattered rocky cliff. I moved away from thirty years of close friendships and known commodities to start anew. A complete revamp of my life in every single aspect. I questioned if this was the right move, the best location. This upheaval solidified in my heart it was perfect.

I’m looking at the positives: new paint means new color. Carpet removal means carpet upgrade. Oriental carpets cleaned and spiffed, furniture and upholstery, curtains and pillows looking brand new. A new fireplace and bricks. I’m still in overhaul here. The process has begun but have weeks ahead to be finalized, but it’s begun. Finally after nine months of negations.

Attitude baby! It’s what changes the outcome. Makes sailing easier too through the choppy seas.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.☀️

*This is where the earth’s environment gets cleaned up: in our own backyards first. It always begins with us.

**Charlie the Wonder Dog, blind and hampered by sciatica, will be 13 in August. It’s the Love that keeps him going. 💕

 

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“Why Being Grateful Isn’t Enough”

This is going to sound odd, however being grateful isn’t enough. Wild statement, right? And the reason I say this is being gratefulness is still outside ourselves. It’s like seeing a bouquet of flowers on the table. We enjoy them, appreciate the beauty, are grateful for their presence/presents in our homes, yet those thoughts are still externalized. We do the same with the good things that come our way. We keep them emotionally externalized, outside our inner being, our hearts, based on past hurtful experiences. What if…? pops into our awareness, fears creeps into our thinking and we keep the goodness, the rewards and love on the table, like the flowers in the vase. Externalized.

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To really manifest change, to create our desired outcomes, we have to truly allow ourselves to feel it, be it, feel the appreciation, the gratitude, the fullness of the moment, the connection, the relationship, within our hearts. That feeling of totally being in love with life, with ourselves . That’s what creates the instantaneous shift in awareness. It’s what creates higher vibrations within our bodies, ie, the emotional, mental and physical bodies, healing through love, distortions within the cells. And and and!! You just feel great!

So how do you go from external to internal? You become the temple instead of going to one. You bring the focus inward to your heart temple, all the positives of the day. The love of an animal, friends, family. Find the best rewards within your daily routine; bring them into your heart. Feel them.

Now just love them – all the goodness and connections and emotional gifts and bonuses to death, till death, since there is no death, it translates to forever. As you do, love yourself, every single aspect of you: your body, your weird characteristics, your talents, your foibles, your dreams, your lessons, your strengths and powers. Feel this gratitude in your heart! ❤️ This is Powerful! But bottom line is you’ve got to do it.

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Then relationships take on a new vibe, a brighter hue. Whether in steady long term connections to attracting the next best highest vibing love, this changes the experiential feeling. Why? Because you flipped the switch, brought the love inside, and can feel the exuberance and excitement. This applies to all aspects in life, not just relationships. You are the key.

Make it a Mantra, a habit.

Let me know after you’ve added this daily for the next several months what’s changed in your life, because things will. Guaranteed.

What a bonus.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.

 

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“Four Quick Steps to Activate Your Intuition”

In today’s crazy world it’s even more imperative to trust and utilize our intuition. Too many people are buying into propaganda based on everyone else’s views and the constant negative newsfeed. Look at situations, dramas, episodes through our hearts and third eye. The portrayed good guys can be false gods and the purported bad guys can be actually wearing white hats. Think family, jobs and career, medical issues, social and political organizations.

Remember looking at the 3D illustrations where we have to look at the images through a new lens, from the side,  through soft vision to see the dimensional picture materialize? I recommend doing this regularly in life. Look at situations from this softened gaze to activate our inner knowing. Be determined to look at things from every view possible before swinging into judgement, hysteria, anger, name calling, violence, – essentially all levels of negativity. Once ‘there,’ in that field of distortion it’s difficult to find the path back to positivity and joy. Thus getting inebriated, high, over or under stimulated, angry, blaming others, finger pointing, to re-right the emotional ship becomes the avenue, when in truth the best direction is inward. Listen to our inner knowing.

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1. Be in-tuned with  yourself, your emotional needs.

2. Listen with your heart not your head. If it feels right it is. If it feels off even slightly then pay attention. This is relevant for relationships, jobs, health, social issues.

3. Look at things with a softened gaze. Look through your third eye in the center of your forehead for the real view. It’s time to stay aligned with your higher ideal.

4. Trust your instincts. The heart and emotional connectivity won’t steer you wrong. Not listening is the curve ball.

 

Here’s to seeing life in all its beautiful dimensions.

 

Cosmic sunshine to you.

 

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